Don’t Count Me As A #MeTooWoman Even Though…

Nov 13, 2018


Nancy Fredericks

Nancy Fredericks pens Women Lead Change's "Mindful Mondays" column, appearing the second Monday of every month. Fredericks is a preeminent Business Executive Strategist, Author and Thought Leader. Corporations like Johnson & Johnson, PepsiCo, Adobe, Allergan and Transamerica have retained her to optimize individual and organizational performance. You can find her at www.CareerStretchZone.com. The views of Nancy Frederick's blogs represent her own and not necessarily the views of Women Lead Change.

The views of Nancy Frederick's blogs represent her own and not necessarily the views of IWLC.


I stand as a one in five statistic of the sexually abused women in America.

Let me be clear. Am I glad our business culture has done a 180° where women speak up and are listened to by the authorities? Yes!

Do I believe some men have injured women? Absolutely!

Am I a stand for men being held legally accountable for their actions? You bet I am!

Am I overjoyed to see men losing their positions merely because of a “she said, he said” accusation? No, I’m not!

Though the #MeTo movement has started the ball rolling, there is a higher purpose in all of this. While I don’t mean to steal from Martin Luther King, I too have a dream….

where women take their rightful place alongside men in leading our companies and our country into a new era—where respect for everyone, no matter their sex or positional authority—is the model. It’s a world where neither male nor female has the right to bully another merely because they have the masses on their side. We’ve longed for a time, when both sexes are valued and honored, where inclusiveness is the order of the day, where one can argue his or her position for the betterment of all, where men and women celebrate what each brings to the table, and where we work together harmoniously. (Excerpt Taken From Blog: Women, Is That We Want?)

When we build and stand for such an environment the #MeTo movement will no longer be a part of our culture’s dialogue. Our businesses and its workforce will experience unprecedented creative power through the synergy of men and women working collectively. We all have a choice, and each of our decisions has consequences whether for good or bad.

What if instead of arguing and blaming we emerged out of this time with a clear commitment to new opportunities and new beginnings? What if we spoke of a brand new exciting time in our business relationships? What if we chose to inspire one another to greatness?

What do you suppose could occur? I believe and hold it will be an entirely new business environment.

Do you want to step into this reality? It begins as we decide:

Stop Pointing Blame: Before accusing others, do a quick check in of yourself. It is very likely you, also, possess some of the responsibility. (Related Article: When You Point A Finger At Your Boss, Three Are Pointing Right Back At You)

Start Speaking Up and Listen: Healing begins as you courageously and vulnerably share your experience with another, but it doesn’t end there, as listening is, just as if not, more crucial to the process.

Believe In The Power of One: I’ve always coached clients, and know, one committed individual can make a difference.

The Challenge To Men And Women In Business:Ask daily

What one small thing can I do this week which will heal the gap we’re experiencing between men and women?

All of this requires individual moral courage and clarity of purpose. Let’s join together and take one small step forward each day.

Category: Mindful Monday